Restart

Restart – is the word most of us know in context with computers. No matter which operating system you have you need to restart after software updates or when your computer is clogged and you trust restart will help him.

Restart is the word you can also use after changes in the life.

There are many changes in the life that can be expected. A kid of certain age will change schools, at 18 one is eventually adult and can vote, at 40 middle age starts, old age starts at 60.

There are also many changes in the life that can’t be expected. Nevertheless one need to live through these changes, at the age when they are experienced.

For example I was 13 in August 1968 during Invasion of Czechoslovakia. I spent last holiday with my parents in Giant Mountains, mum leaving on the 21.8. to be with my older sisters as we lived in Praha, close to Czech Radio. With dad we enjoyed empty mountains as most of people left. Well, for me walking in the mountains with dad was enjoyable as I didn’t understand the politics. Later I didn’t have a chance to ask how my dad felt.

I was 34 in 1989 when Berlin wall fell and we, in the Eastern Bloc, gained the freedom. Freedom to travel, work in some Western countries … these were optimisctic times. We decided to have a third child, maternity leave allowed me to join my husband for work in Germany in 1992 for one and half year. Well, eventually we spent about 20 years abroad, not only in Germany.

At the age of 48, in England, I had lymphoma and after 6 months of chemo I felt like 80 years old. Still alive, I can ponder about the past and reconsider the plans for the future.

Just now the 53. anniversary of the Warsaw Pact invasion of Czechoslovakia is ahead. The world is completely different place now. There is no visible division between the West and East, but there is a division in our minds. It will allways be. “Our” minds store “our” memories and it can be tricky. People aged 53 and younger can’t have their own memories of the year 1968, they haven’t been born. The second half of 20.century’s history was seldom taught in Czech schools. If so, it was black and white view – the West is bad and the East is good.

But we don’t live in fairy tales. Everyone has own joys and worries, according to the age, current situation, place of living, own (in)dependence – and whether it is real or just the feeling of (in)dependence … shouldn’t we all start looking for what we have in common and not what is dividing us?

The covid time demonstrated that we all have the need for food and dring, for a shelter, … for social life that can’t be replaced by online communication. Let’s use “respect and be respected” motto and rather ask before judging “the others”! There is a great quote on the internet: “Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, you’ll be a mile from them, and you’ll have their shoes”.

Taking the quote literally, one could accuse you of stealing if you take someone else’s shoes and walk a mile away from them … and that’s where the misunderstandings start – when taking literally, what was meant as a joke or satire.